Sunday, January 20, 2008

Blame and Responsibility

What I am going to say here may offend some people here but we value freedom of speech here, don’t we? Besides, its always good to bring up a something that could start a debate.

This steams from Friday, when I had my Christmas review in college. Unfortunately, while passing everything else, I failed the main module, although I wasn’t the only one, 16 other people failed along with me! So yeah, I kind of obviously felt down about myself as a result and has led to me thinking about where I am in life at present and my future, including whatever or not I should drop out.

I decided against that, instead deciding that I’m going to put my head down and really try my hardest, put in 110%, starting with the next project, which we will get on Monday, Among other things like going to a lecturer known for his brutal honesty ( who also happens to be the best - and the most real world experienced - lecturer on my course ) and asking him where I am going wrong and what I can do to fix it.

But anyways, enough about that, from this, along with talking to a fellow MRA in the Chatroom last night, I spoke to him about how I, along with many others, were constantly complaining about the department being under - resourced, morale being extremely low, that the project briefs were crap and in my case, living an annoying 40 minute bus trip from college and coming from an unstable family life. In other words, I was blaming everyone and everything else for my failure but myself.

With that I said this little gem that deserves to be shared;

Accepting blame - even embracing it - is a sign of maturity. That is why we live in such an immature society!

Which brings me to the core of this topic; In modern society, there is no where near enough responsibility. The vast majority of people dread the word ‘ responsibility ‘ as it actually makes them stop and think about the consequences of their actions and that maybe, in reality, they have no one to blame but themselves for their own shortcomings in life! Instead of accepting blame for their failures and shortcomings, they instead go around blaming anyone or anything else for it. This makes them feel better and at the same time, it also gives them an excuse to not do something about it.

Like I said, accepting blame is a sign of maturity. Sure, it might make you look and feel like a fool but in the long people, you will gain more respect from both others and yourself. You will be able to trust yourself and people will be able to trust you. Accepting responsibility for your actions also means that if you make a serious error of judgement, you know that its your own fault and yours alone and this leads to you doing something about it. This in turn leads to you becoming a better person in the long run.

Now, the trouble is, this train of thought has lead me to realise that I too, am guilty of not accepting blame for my own failures and short comings in life. I’ve being very vocal about that here on my blog, like blaming my parent’s alcoholism, for fucking me up and leaving me with a negative self image when in all honesty, I’m really should be blaming myself. Its not what happens to you in life, its how you react to what happens to you in life that makes you who you are.

I’m not saying that the current cultural climate is entirely blameless, it contributes but like I said, its how you react that matters. You could what the manginas do; wallow in self - pity, blaming skanks, jerks, big government and feminism for all the ills and failures in life, not just with women. Giving them in their heads, a justifiable reason to not actually do anything about their situation! OR you could do what a real man would do; Take a long, good hard look at themselves, realise that they only have themselves to blame for the situation in thier lives and then go out and do something about it.

Feminists, western women in general and manginas go without saying here. However, I also have reason to believe that some MRAs would fit this profile as well. I know I sound like a jerk by saying that but think about it, the MRA scene gives some guys, particularly ones who have never being that successful with women to begin with ( like me ), a justifiable reason to whine about it and not actually do something to improve the situation!

I’m not saying that dating a WW / AW should be a goal or is even a good idea for such guys. I mean that these guys are using the MRA scene to hide from the idea of accepting blame for their own failures or shortcomings, which in turn leads them to becoming stagnant and bitter with their lives, not to mention shutting others wit different ideas. While I don’t too much about the respective issues, from what I gathered, TMB and AWS are examples of where this happened or is happening, correct me if I’m wrong.

That is the beauty of MGTOW, it’s a philosophy of life, one that encourages men to face responsibility for their actions and accept blame for their failures and shortcomings and with that, take action to make themselves better people as well. Unfortunately, as it is so broad, it also leads to laziness among some men, who see it as an excuse to never face up their shortcomings or improve themselves and hence never, come to anything. What kind of life is that, one might ask?

So, that’s just what I wanted to say, we as men should face up to our failures and shortcomings. Doing so will lead us to becoming better people.

Finally, this topic has remined of the scene from Rocky 6, I posted it and spoke of it before and it deserves to shown here again as it suits the context of this topic perfectly;



Until next time,

NHY

2 comments:

darkbhudda said...

Uni in particular rewards immaturity. I'd do my work and while it wasn't perfect, I'd accept that I'd get around 75-80% and that was good enough as it was on time. Other people I saw would go up to lecturers and complain about how stressed they were then get 2 week extensions and get higher marks.

MRA whining is sometimes just people venting. For so long they've not had an opportunity to spout out truth without being censored, so for some people it's a cathartic release that needs to happen before they can start becoming free men. For some people they need to vent for years to get that release.


That is the beauty of MGTOW, it’s a philosophy of life, one that encourages men to face responsibility for their actions and accept blame for their failures and shortcomings and with that, take action to make themselves better people as well.

Part of MGTOW is also learning that some things about yourself don't need to be changed. A lot of societal programming falls away and it gives you the ability to focus on changing what *you* want to change or improve not what others want you to.

Thanks to MGTOW I'm not sitting around bemoaning that life ain't a bowl of cherries. It's given me the tools to go out and make friends with cherry pickers and bowl makers.


Take care.

NHY said...

Thanks to MGTOW I'm not sitting around bemoaning that life ain't a bowl of cherries. It's given me the tools to go out and make friends with cherry pickers and bowl makers.

For some reason, this made me smile. Thanks for sharing that little gem of wisdom! :)