Friday, March 28, 2008

Moving On - Goodbye



I have being doing a lot of thinking lately. I have come to the conclusion that I became an MRA for the wrong reasons and have therefore decided to leave the MRA scene. This will be my final post on this blog. I would like to take this oppurtnity to explain my reasons on why I'm leaving.

I was 20 years old when I first came across the MRA scene, back in the Summer of 2006. It was here I learned of MGTOW, or Men Going Thier Own Way. I could say I got sucked in quite quickly and boy, did I get sucked in!

You see, I never really had that much luck with women in my life and had gotten to the point where my frustration was beginning manifest itself as anger and rage. I was looking for something, somewhere, to point a finger at and behold, through the MRA scene, I was able to point my finger squarely at feminism!

Needless to say, I became quite paranoid about women. Instead of actually going out there and doing something to improve my situation. I didn't. Instead, I observed and mentally checked points in my head that proved points that I read about on Enternal Bachelor or Fred X. In short, I was using the MRA scene as an excuse to not only justifiy my lack of usccess with women but also make it seem NOBLE.

Now, I'm not saying there isn't problems, there is. There are many that I won't go into here but they are there. There have always being problems with interactions between men and women and the way the genders treat each other or how they are viewed, be it 2008 or 1779! Its called LIFE, we just have to put up with it! But NO, as soon as something happens and one gender doesn't like it, they completely FREAK OUT and demand that things are put back the way they are.

Don't even get me started on conspiracy theories. If you want to drive yourself completely demented, then be my guest, they are there for you to read out there, become so bloody paranoid you can't leave your home without thinking some man-lizard thing who is a member of some apparently satanic cult that is clearly visible but is invisilbe at the same time is going to come and get you and brainwash into a zombie. Please, not for me, I've wasted enough of my youth as it is, thank you!

I guess it all boils down to one thing, MGTOW is quite open in my view and here I am, doing just that, I am Going My Own Way. I am making my own decisions in life, I know of lot of other MRAs will disagree with my thinking, some may even come out and say that I've sold out and that I've become a mangina and only care about ' The Golden Pussy. '

Look, I'm not stopping anyone from saying anything and I'm not going to censor any comments, your welcome to. Though I'll only allow comments for a short time before disabling them and streamlining this blog before I leave for good.

That being siad, I would like to extend my gratitude to all those within the MRA scene who have influenced my thoughts, ideas and actions in whatever way, be it big or small. I would like to thank you all, you should know who you are. I wish you all the best with your future hopes and aspirations and I hope they all come true for you all.

All that remains for me to say is goodbye everyone, see you all on the flip side!

NHY

10 comments:

Hawaiian Libertarian said...

There is a certain satisfaction gained from indulging in MRA approved misogyny...but one could easily let it consume them to the point of becoming the inverse image of the zeitgeist of feminists irrational angst we seek to overturn in the first place.

However, the most important thing you should take away from your MRA experience is to never take ANY person, male or female (especially female) at face value...but to look at what they do, not what they say.

When I first discovered the MRA movement, I enjoyed the rantings of Duncan and Fred X as much as the next guy...but I never had trouble with dating females -- indeed I'm married and have been so for the past 10 years. In other words, the MRA movement is not dependent upon or driven solely by bitter men who have learned to hate the female gender because of the feminist movement. No, I found Fred's, Duncan's, your's and others rage to in fact be quite justified in the face of what the forces of feminism has done to Western Civilization...but I also recognized that letting yourself become obsessed with anger and rage is risking becoming that which caused that hate and rage in the first place.

But what I did get from discovering the world of the MRA and the MGTOW movements was recognition of the TRUTH. Why society is on the decline, and just how feminism has corrupted the building block of civilization: the nuclear family unit.

So though you may leave off your rage against the machine and sign off from your blog, you are still equipped with the ability to recognize feminist bullshit when you see it...because whether you are a MGYOW and shunning female relationships, or whether you take the risks and do get involved in them, the feminist influence is indeed ubiquitous. Recognizing it when it rears it's ugly head is necessary to cope with whatever challenges you encounter.

I used to cluelessly endure mindless misandry from my wife and her friends, thinking nothing of it. I too laughed at the caricatures of dumb men and laughed at misandrist jokes and most media manifestations of misandry.

Thanks to the MRA, I laugh no longer...because I now see that such things are REALLY NOT FUNNY.

They are designed to dehumanize the male gender and destroy the VERY NATURAL and BALANCED existence of the male/female relationship. I now confront the subversive influence whenever I encounter it...and it has made my relationships with the females in my life much easier for me to deal with as result.

In short, one does not have to be a dedicated bachelor to oppose feminism. Indeed, the biggest blow you can strike against feminism and the modern Matriarchy is to find a female for which you can successfully create a Patriarchal family unit with.

Though you may never blog again, I'm quite sure that at the very least, you will be able to a much more discerning and cautious entrant into a male/female relationship because you have been enlightened about the modern dynamics of life under the matriarchal model.

Good luck NHY!

tba said...

Sorry to hear you hang up your gloves. But you've gotta do what is best for you.

I understand where you are coming from when it comes to the feelings of rage. That is why I do not visit much those blogs which focus solely on the stupid things that women do or say, because the rage one feels when reading those articles simply isn't healthy. I mainly visit the intellectual blogs which seeks to understand male, female, and life in general.

3 cheers to you on all of your contributions to anti-feminism and may your post-blogging life be filled with joy and contentment.

an old anonymous enemy said...

Good luck. I was one of the commenters who always came by to nag about how 'not all girls are like that'. I'm sure that you and I still disagree on many points but I am really, really glad that you are feeling happier and more positive about women and life in general now than you were back then.

HawaiianLibertarian is right that we should always be aware of instances when men or women aren't being treated fairly, but by and large life passes us by quickly and spending our time railing against such things on the internet doesn't help. It just wastes a person's time and turns them bitter.

Life is short. It can be unfair, but oh boy, it can be great too. I'm really pleased that you're getting out there. Best of luck with the future.

NHY said...

HL: Of course I will take what I've learned from my time within the MRA scene and apply in my life.

tba: 3 cheers to you. :)

Old Anon Enemy: No sweat, we obviously are all guilty of getting lost in our delusions at times, even if we think we are being right.

Eqauilty is an important issue for everyone to look at, be it whatever your black or white, male or female.

Good Luck to you too.

Miss Ondrya said...

Good luck. The most important thing is that you are awake. That's the way I look at it.

Sociopathic Revelation said...

I wish you the best, like many here, but unlike some that may feel consumed by the rage, it's what I stated on another forum about Pook's Mill---I often engage on the forums with the "I can't stand women" subset not because I hate all women---I don't---but because I don't ever want to be too complacent. I've even had a woman who claimed who loved me--and went out of her way to try to prove it---turn into an unholy beast over time. It's something you can never be certain of until you know someone entire; I'm not paranoid of women, either, but understanding their natures can seem like a curse, and liberating, too.

I still look for female companionship once in a while, but I consider it a triumph that I DON'T NEED IT.

Hell, I've even openly mentioned I'd enjoy the intimacy that having a beautiful woman around brings. I've already been there, done that, and despite the fact I have no intention of siring children and ever skeptical of marriage, it hasn't been because (on my account) I was a loser that never attracted women; outside of the anti-male bias we face, I simply became sick of the games, the lies, the myths, the garbage it takes in order to procure someone for crumbs of attention. I've been told my pride and wariness get in the way of a "real" relationship . . . what is a real relationship, anyway? My best one was with an attractive older woman that was a friends with benefits situation. Let all the detractors cry about how it was second rate compared to the typical context; it was a cornerstone in my personal liberation.

But back to the rage thing; I don't know if it bothers you that perhaps that feeling can go too far, but in my ever rather unorthodox view, I don't mind my own deep resentful barbs that are ever pointed at the forces that would make me submit. It's not about fighting the world or saving it; it's about being on one's one side and not taking too much toxic crap that's not innately yours to endure. I believe in anger, but without balances in one's personal,social, and professional life, it can consume others. Being scornful of feminists doesn't bother me---I could care less what they think, and that's why they don't speak on my blog unless I decide.

I don't consider myself a hateful individual, but there's a time and place for respite, peace, and comfort, and another to take that anger and use it to fight for the right things.

I never look down my nose at the Eternal Bachelors of the world and their NHB style---I actually get a charge out of it once in a while; however, some might think that spending too much time venting is not constructive. I think many people that are worried about MGTOW "misogyny" would be surprised at how myself and many others actually LIKE to be productive and enjoy our lives. If that pisses off a few feminists and manginas in the process, they can take a hike---it's not up to them to demand anything out of our enrichment, it's our choice to walk the path we take.

Cheers,
SR/Chris

Blademonkey said...

No worries mang. Enjoyed reading your musings and rants, agreed with some, disagreed with others. FWIW, glad to have known that I'm not alone in my frustrations and rage.

Thanks for all you wrote. May the wind always be at your back. May Ahura Mazda bless you always, I'm sure we'll meet again.

Until then, I'll hoist a drink in your general direction and wish you the best in all that you do.

VoodooJock said...

I don't think there's anything to be ashamed about. There's no reason to justify your decision either.

That's the purpose of MGTOW, you do what you feel is best for your life. And if something quits being congruent with your life choices, you dispose of it.

No reasonable man would ever hold you in contempt for doing what you feel is right for yourself. In fact, the difference between your friends and those who drag you down is that your friends will pat you on the back and wish you well along your path while those who drag you down would shame you into staying.

Remember that life's a journey, not a destination and to enjoy walking the path. Don't lose focus on the destination, but don't let the destination blind you to what you may find on the journey.

Walk strong, Brother.

VJ

terro said...

Well, truth is, MRAs are fighting for a lot more than just success with women.

If you just wanted that, you should have just joined PUAs.

And there is no reason why you can't pursue both. The fight for men's rights IS a noble and VERY needed one! Because we are getting clobbered out there! And getting some poon is NOT going to magically fix that!

Anonymous said...

I think you are a better person for having looked at the truth about relationships between men and women today. It is true a very high percentage of women in the Anglosphere have a toxic view of men and marriage and divorce. It is also true if by some miracle you can find one who isn't, it can be great.

Also, it is true that moving out of the Anglosphere is an excellent choice. Even if women have the same personality traits, they do not develop them the same when they are not rewarded by their society for being toxic.

Anonymous age 65