I no longer care.

No, I don’t mean I don’t care about myself, that’s stupid. What I mean is that I longer care about the whole stupid dating game, the hoops a guy ‘ has to ‘ jump through in order to get the girl, the notion you need to be polite to a girl all the fucking time, blah blah blah.

Well, FUCK THAT!

Why jump through hoops? Why be so damned polite to them all the time? Why even play the dating game at all? I do know the game is rigged, the filthy skanks have every cheat in the book and there no consequences for their actions. The poor nice guy who actually follows the ridiculous rules of dating are cast aside as being too boring or as marriage material while the women go off with the scum with flashy cars, who deal drugs and who even abuse her!

What does that tell you women? Maybe they actually WANT to pushed around, maybe they want to be called and their bullshit, maybe they want a guy who ignores the hoops and goes straight for the kill! Back in my nice guy days, I never thought of that but now, in my awakened state, I’m not only aware of it but I accept it for the way it is.

And you what, for the first time in a long time, I feel good. I feel really good about myself. Its like with that hindrance gone, I am free to by my own man. ‘ Its only when we’ve lost everything that we are free to do anything ‘ so Tyler Durden from Fight Club speaks and he is right. For a nice guy, when the pillar of illusion collapses, you are free to live your own life, your own way.

No more of this taking of BS from women. You will begin to call them out on their bullshit and not only will you get away with saying it but other guys WILL agree with you as well.

Man, I’ve changed. When I first came here, I was still hanging on to the threads of an old fantasy. Now that I’ve fallen and gotten back up, I’ve found being on the ground is a hell of a lot better than hanging from a fucking thread! Needless to say, I’ve still got aspects of myself that I need to work on but that’s what men do ( Unless your chained to a femi - nazi wife. If so, go out and get testosterone shots… PLEASE. And watch Fight Club while your at that! ) , we constantly improve ourselves. We are perfect by our imperfections. After all, Perfection is BORING.

Everywhere, everyday. We are bombarded messages from family members, your friends, work colleagues, school and the media about what is the definition of being a man. ‘ Oh, young boy! To be a man you never speak your mind, give up all your desires. Work a job you hate, buy shit you don’t need. Fall in love, get married and work until you die! ‘ That is what I call a FALSE DEFINATION!

Its false because generally most people’s views aren’t really their own. It is given to them, either through the media, through other family members and society in general. They are herd people, living in a complete dream world of perpetual childhood. They don’t realise this and they think they know everything they need to know!

What I want to say is if it the definition of what is a man being told you to by everyone feels wrong. The chances are, it probably is. If want to make the most out of your life, then it is YOU who most come up with your own definition of what a man is. If you spend your life living by someone’s else’s definition, then you will feel hollow, worthless and weak. Is that what you really want from life?

We men are hindered in today’s society. I am well aware of it. But will, that stop men from succeeding against the odds in life? No, it won’t and it shouldn’t for you. The important is to Not listen to what others think is a man, especially women! Sure, your family and friends might have some helpful advice and you shouldn’t ignore altogether but if it is up to own to define yourself otherwise, you will never be comfortable in your own skin.

It doesn’t matter if people turn away from you for being true to yourself. It is THEIR LOSS. Its just a sign of what they are going up as; SHEEP! Your going your own way by refusing to be a part of the herd while they submit to it. Besides, you can always make new and cooler friends, huh?

Life is meant to be lived. You not supposed to just EXIST, your meant to LIVE.

Until Next Time,

NHY