Blame and Responsibility

What I am going to say here may offend some people here but we value freedom of speech here, don’t we? Besides, its always good to bring up a something that could start a debate.

This steams from Friday, when I had my Christmas review in college. Unfortunately, while passing everything else, I failed the main module, although I wasn’t the only one, 16 other people failed along with me! So yeah, I kind of obviously felt down about myself as a result and has led to me thinking about where I am in life at present and my future, including whatever or not I should drop out.

I decided against that, instead deciding that I’m going to put my head down and really try my hardest, put in 110%, starting with the next project, which we will get on Monday, Among other things like going to a lecturer known for his brutal honesty ( who also happens to be the best - and the most real world experienced - lecturer on my course ) and asking him where I am going wrong and what I can do to fix it.

But anyways, enough about that, from this, along with talking to a fellow MRA in the Chatroom last night, I spoke to him about how I, along with many others, were constantly complaining about the department being under - resourced, morale being extremely low, that the project briefs were crap and in my case, living an annoying 40 minute bus trip from college and coming from an unstable family life. In other words, I was blaming everyone and everything else for my failure but myself.

With that I said this little gem that deserves to be shared;

Accepting blame - even embracing it - is a sign of maturity. That is why we live in such an immature society!

Which brings me to the core of this topic; In modern society, there is no where near enough responsibility. The vast majority of people dread the word ‘ responsibility ‘ as it actually makes them stop and think about the consequences of their actions and that maybe, in reality, they have no one to blame but themselves for their own shortcomings in life! Instead of accepting blame for their failures and shortcomings, they instead go around blaming anyone or anything else for it. This makes them feel better and at the same time, it also gives them an excuse to not do something about it.

Like I said, accepting blame is a sign of maturity. Sure, it might make you look and feel like a fool but in the long people, you will gain more respect from both others and yourself. You will be able to trust yourself and people will be able to trust you. Accepting responsibility for your actions also means that if you make a serious error of judgement, you know that its your own fault and yours alone and this leads to you doing something about it. This in turn leads to you becoming a better person in the long run.

Now, the trouble is, this train of thought has lead me to realise that I too, am guilty of not accepting blame for my own failures and short comings in life. I’ve being very vocal about that here on my blog, like blaming my parent’s alcoholism, for fucking me up and leaving me with a negative self image when in all honesty, I’m really should be blaming myself. Its not what happens to you in life, its how you react to what happens to you in life that makes you who you are.

I’m not saying that the current cultural climate is entirely blameless, it contributes but like I said, its how you react that matters. You could what the manginas do; wallow in self - pity, blaming skanks, jerks, big government and feminism for all the ills and failures in life, not just with women. Giving them in their heads, a justifiable reason to not actually do anything about their situation! OR you could do what a real man would do; Take a long, good hard look at themselves, realise that they only have themselves to blame for the situation in thier lives and then go out and do something about it.

Feminists, western women in general and manginas go without saying here. However, I also have reason to believe that some MRAs would fit this profile as well. I know I sound like a jerk by saying that but think about it, the MRA scene gives some guys, particularly ones who have never being that successful with women to begin with ( like me ), a justifiable reason to whine about it and not actually do something to improve the situation!

I’m not saying that dating a WW / AW should be a goal or is even a good idea for such guys. I mean that these guys are using the MRA scene to hide from the idea of accepting blame for their own failures or shortcomings, which in turn leads them to becoming stagnant and bitter with their lives, not to mention shutting others wit different ideas. While I don’t too much about the respective issues, from what I gathered, TMB and AWS are examples of where this happened or is happening, correct me if I’m wrong.

That is the beauty of MGTOW, it’s a philosophy of life, one that encourages men to face responsibility for their actions and accept blame for their failures and shortcomings and with that, take action to make themselves better people as well. Unfortunately, as it is so broad, it also leads to laziness among some men, who see it as an excuse to never face up their shortcomings or improve themselves and hence never, come to anything. What kind of life is that, one might ask?

So, that’s just what I wanted to say, we as men should face up to our failures and shortcomings. Doing so will lead us to becoming better people.

Finally, this topic has remined of the scene from Rocky 6, I posted it and spoke of it before and it deserves to shown here again as it suits the context of this topic perfectly;



Until next time,

NHY

Christmas Time

I’ve said last year that I’m a bit of Scrooge, Christmas isn’t exactly my favourite time of year. Maybe that will mean I’ll end becoming a workaholic later on in life!

Joking aside, I actually love the lights, the decorations, things like that. I’m very much a visual person and I love the time and effort into the detail around homes, shops and the like to make them as ‘ Christmassy ‘ as possible. I love Christmas lights that are hung up in towns and cities as well, EXCEPT where I live, they use plain bulbs instead of Christmas lights here and a fucking pole for a Christmas tree, cheap bastards!

Unfortunately, its what Christmas has become that I have a problem with. OK now, lets see, I’m barely back in college in September and a fucking Christmas shop has just opened in the local Shopping Centre! ‘ We believe that people are spreading out the purchase of Christmas decorations over the year! ‘ So, they claim. Well, if that was the case, why don’t they have a Christmas shop open all year round!? ( Crap, I’m giving them ideas, shut up, NHY! )

And what about those toys all the kids seem to want that supplies of become oh so magically short in the run up to the holiday season? it’s the same bloody thing every year with the so - called ‘ most wanted toy ‘ , be it Furbies, Robots that can make your fucking tea or whatever it is. Haven’t any of you noticed that the top toy is strangely ALWAYS in short supply in the run up to Christmas? ‘ Wouldn’t have they made enough to keep up with demand? ‘ You might ask.

Well, the truth is, the short supply is deliberate and intentional. In fact, they could have plenty of them but the truth is, supply is controlled, they might tell you they have none when in fact, they might plenty of such and such a toy in the backrooms! This is done to create the ILLUSION of demand outstripping supply. Why? So that they can jack up the price of said item, that’s why! You really don’t want to disappoint little Jack, do you if you can’t get him that Robot you promised him for Christmas so you’ll be willing to pay an arm and a leg for it! The film Jingle All The Way comes to mind here. Yes, I know, its sick but hey, that’s the marketing machine working at is best for you!

Speaking of the marketing machine, at this time of year, the thing is roaring along so loud at this time of year, some of us can’t get to sleep over it! ‘ Get him this! Get her that! Get Susie this doll! Kiss your girlfriends ass with this useless ( and well overpriced ) diamond! ‘ The pressure is awful, its implied that if you DON’T buy a present for every single relative you have, even if you don’t like them, then you’re a bad person! Sorry but the only person I buy a Christmas present for these days is my sister!

And what this about if your not dating someone at Christmas, then apparently, you’re a loser? Once upon a time, it used to hurt me, and I thought I’d never be loved and was always lonely at Christmas and would never be loved because I wasn’t this thing or that thing. Ugh, it’s a vicious circle, huh, guys? I don’t really care now, sure it would be nice but I’ve learned that it isn’t so bad, why should I worry, at least I’m not having to waste my money on buying useless shit for some girl who might only be using me as an human ATM machine, so yeah!

Mangina’s think its alright to suck up to their masters, sorry I mean girlfriends, with expensive shit at Christmas time because they MIGHT just get laid this time. Chances, its not going to happen, buddy! She’ll probably complain to you that its not expensive enough, about how all men are evil and then tell you need to ‘ man up ‘ at the same time! lol, contradiction!

Admittedly, Christmas is a rather lonely time for me. Where I live has nothing for me, the place is a mess and I have no faith in this dump! Most of the youth are of the scum type, anyway and I want nothing to do with it! ‘ Yay! Its Christmas, lets go bushing! ‘ Nothing new there, really. Meanwhile, the good people are left, neglected and questioning what the hell is this all about. I know that because I often asked such questions myself.

People in general are so gosh damned, I don’t know, artificial. You all feel guilty because you drank too or ate to much at Christmas! Again, that’s the media using shaming language again. Enjoy yourselves without having to worry later, for goodness sake! I couldn’t care less if you gain a few pounds by actually enjoying yourselves over Christmas, like I said, shaming language. Again, the media plays on such things, you are aware that we’re going to get bombarded with fitness ads in the new year?

Now, New Year Resolutions aren’t a bad thing…. As long as you stick to them. That is. If not, they are just superficial. Sure, it’s a new year, a new beginning but trust, just because it’s a new year, that doesn’t mean you’ve changed! Your still the same person you were at 11:59pm! Besides, there are PLENTY of other and indeed more powerful occasions that you can resolve to change yourself for the better.

One thing I read on a message was one guys New Years Resolutions include getting a girlfriend! UGH! OK, lets get this straight, you say you want to get a girlfriend then don’t say it as a bloody resolution! One thing that I believe and find hard time fully implementing into my life is the notion that by eliminating desire for something, you will get it!

And at this time of year, maybe that might the best thing to practise….

Until next time

NHY